How to know if you are in a toxic relationship?

Being in a toxic relationship is really hard. Not because you have to deal with a person who does not value you, but you have to deal with yourself who is not valuing his/her own self. A relationship has to see a lot of turmoils because two people from completely different perspectives happen to be with each other. Of course there are times when your bond is being tested. As they say, “all relationships go through hell, but real relationships get through it”. This is very true. But apart from all the struggles they face together, what if only one of the two is facing the challenges?

This article will probably help you to know if you are in a normal relationship or a ‘toxic’ one. If you notice these things in your partner, it’s time for you to hear the warning bell.

Disrespectful behavior

A person who loves you and wants to be with you will never disrespect you. If your partner constantly disrespects you or insults you in front of others then there is no point in being with such person.

Getting abusive

This one is similar to disrespecting you. He/she should never abuse you be it physically or verbally. If you hear something abusive from your partner, stop them at that very point and clear them out that you are not supposed to be treated like that. 

Physical violence

I cannot stress more on this one. So many people are suffering from physical violence in their relationship and the worst part is that they do not speak up just for the sake of ‘love’. Come on! if they “loved” you, then they would never hurt you (that too physically).

Intimacy and intimacy

If your partner just wants physical relationship from you and nothing else, then do not entertain that person being a “material of joy”.

Over-possessive

It’s common to be a little jealous and possessive in a relationship. But everything has a limit. If you find your partner being overly possessive about you and chase you wherever you go just to keep an eye on you, then I suggest leaving that relationship.

Name calling

If you find your partner adopting this habit then its time to sit down and talk about your relationship. Never hear anything bad about yourself especially from the person whom you love or loved once.

Collision of attitudes

When two people are together they are likely to have some or the other topics to fight for. But...if you notice that both of your relationship is going through hell just because of your attitude (negative) then one or the other has to drop their attitude for the sake of the relationship.

Egos in everything

When a relationship starts facing egos of two people then it becomes very difficult to handle everything. Having ego for your partner never lets you respect him/her and without respect, you cannot continue with your relationship.

Betrayal/Cheating

In a relationship you give yourself to someone and promise them to be theirs forever. Its okay to like someone but not at the cost of cheating on your partner. Cheating is NEVER acceptable. If you find your partner betraying you then its better to not expect any explanation and just move on with your life!

Lower self-esteem

A relationship is supposed to change you in a good way. If being with a person hinders your growth and you find insecure with that person then do yourself a favor and get out of that shell. Live your life on your own and with a great company of YOURSELF.

I really hope you find this article helpful. 

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