How to get rid of a toxic relationship?

Being in a relationship with the wrong person is the worst thing that could happen to you especially, when you see that person as your life partner. But when things do not work out and is crossing the limits, do yourself a favor and walk away. In the previous article we talked about the signs through which we can know whether you are in a toxic relationship or not I know walking away from a relationship that is very close to your heart is not as easy as it is to say. But here are some tips that will surely help you get out of this situation.

1.Try to know the situation                

Sometimes the relationship that you are thinking a toxic one might not be the same. People act and think differently according to their circumstances. Take some time and understand the situation, who knows the person you were considering ‘toxic’ just needed some affection?

2.Talk to him/her

If you are noticing something unusual in your relationship or you are having more distance day by day, then talk to your partner about it. If everything seems to be okay except for having distance, then go for a date or spend some time with each other.

3.Observe the behavior of your partner

Check if your partner is constantly avoiding you for some reasons but have time for other things, then this is definitely a call. If a person really loves you, then s/he will definitely take out some time for you. Talk to him/her about this, he/she might be angry with you for some reasons, if not then ask them the actual reason behind their behavior.

4.Distance yourself from negativity

If your partner is self-centered and does not consider your feelings as something serious then make them realize about it. If they still continue to do so, then walk away from that relationship.

5.Tell your partner about your feelings

If you feel something which your partner is not being able to understand on their own, then it’s never too late to tell them how you are feeling.

6.Never tolerate physical violence

This one is very serious. If your partner raises hand on you even in small things then stop them right away. There’s a huge difference in just playing around and hitting someone hardly.

7.Never look back

If you find your partner cheating on you, then please even if they return back to you, respect yourself enough to walk away and never look back at that relationship. It will never worth forgiving because if they can cheat on you once, then they can do it multiple times.

I really hope this article helps you in whatever situation you are. :)

How to know if you are in a toxic relationship?

Being in a toxic relationship is really hard. Not because you have to deal with a person who does not value you, but you have to deal with yourself who is not valuing his/her own self. A relationship has to see a lot of turmoils because two people from completely different perspectives happen to be with each other. Of course there are times when your bond is being tested. As they say, “all relationships go through hell, but real relationships get through it”. This is very true. But apart from all the struggles they face together, what if only one of the two is facing the challenges?

This article will probably help you to know if you are in a normal relationship or a ‘toxic’ one. If you notice these things in your partner, it’s time for you to hear the warning bell.

Disrespectful behavior

A person who loves you and wants to be with you will never disrespect you. If your partner constantly disrespects you or insults you in front of others then there is no point in being with such person.

Getting abusive

This one is similar to disrespecting you. He/she should never abuse you be it physically or verbally. If you hear something abusive from your partner, stop them at that very point and clear them out that you are not supposed to be treated like that. 

Physical violence

I cannot stress more on this one. So many people are suffering from physical violence in their relationship and the worst part is that they do not speak up just for the sake of ‘love’. Come on! if they “loved” you, then they would never hurt you (that too physically).

Intimacy and intimacy

If your partner just wants physical relationship from you and nothing else, then do not entertain that person being a “material of joy”.

Over-possessive

It’s common to be a little jealous and possessive in a relationship. But everything has a limit. If you find your partner being overly possessive about you and chase you wherever you go just to keep an eye on you, then I suggest leaving that relationship.

Name calling

If you find your partner adopting this habit then its time to sit down and talk about your relationship. Never hear anything bad about yourself especially from the person whom you love or loved once.

Collision of attitudes

When two people are together they are likely to have some or the other topics to fight for. But...if you notice that both of your relationship is going through hell just because of your attitude (negative) then one or the other has to drop their attitude for the sake of the relationship.

Egos in everything

When a relationship starts facing egos of two people then it becomes very difficult to handle everything. Having ego for your partner never lets you respect him/her and without respect, you cannot continue with your relationship.

Betrayal/Cheating

In a relationship you give yourself to someone and promise them to be theirs forever. Its okay to like someone but not at the cost of cheating on your partner. Cheating is NEVER acceptable. If you find your partner betraying you then its better to not expect any explanation and just move on with your life!

Lower self-esteem

A relationship is supposed to change you in a good way. If being with a person hinders your growth and you find insecure with that person then do yourself a favor and get out of that shell. Live your life on your own and with a great company of YOURSELF.

I really hope you find this article helpful. 

Related : How to know if he is the right guy?

7 ways to know if a girl likes you!

As they say, knowing what a girl wants or is trying to say, is SUCH A TASK! Sometimes it can be very difficult to know what exactly is she up to. And especially in that case, when you have a crush on her but does not know if she likes you or not. Worry no more! Read this article to find out if she is also interested in you or not.

She keeps looking at you: Not in the sense that she keeps staring at you all the time but when she looks at you, she looks like you are the only person in the world.

She smiles (or smiles back): When a girl likes you or any other person she can’t help but smile when she sees that person. Or at least she will smile back when you smile at her. And when I say she smiles back at you, she will smile with all her heart not just her lips cause sometimes she can also smile back just because she does not want to be rude.

She gets jealous: This is pretty obvious. If a girl likes a guy and if she sees him being a little close with some other girl , obviously she will not like it. If she talks to you, then she might tell you that she does not like all these if not, she will simply avoid.

She finds ways to talk to you: If a girl is really into you, then she definitely wants to talk to you. So she will find all the possible ways to talk to you. Just pay attention!

She will investigate a lot: Well, at times you might not know what she wants to find about you because you (might) have kept your entire life open on Facebook but she will definitely ask some of your common friends about you. You just need to pay attention.

Her gestures towards you: If you guys already talk, then most of the times she is quite shy while talking to you. If not, she will get nervous in front of you. She will be very conscious about her looks, her posture and her overall behavior.

She wants you to be around or she will do it herself: If a girl likes you then she wants you to be around her most of the times. If not, she will find a way to do it herself. She loves your presence.

So these are the things that can help you to know either the girl you wanted to ask for so long wants you back or not. These are the things that I have observed in other people and being a girl myself, I surely know what’s there in a girl’s mind! ^_^

Tips for dry skin and body|beautyandthebenefit

Having dry skin and body means you can see flakes all over the surface of your body. Dry skin is the result of lack of moisture in your health and body. You cannot just get rid of dry skin by applying products on the problematic areas but you also have to stay healthy from within. So here are a few tips on how you can reduce the dryness of your skin and body.

Dry skin (face):

Dry skin has always been a problem of mine and especially when I can see all those wrinkles on my face when I smile. And I think everyone with dry skin has gone through this phase. That’s annoying. So the first thing you want to do is make sure that your face wash does not have a thick consistency. Thick and foaming face wash tends to remove all the oils from your face…even the good ones!!

The next thing is choosing the right products. Do not go for toners that have alcohol in them. Instead you can opt for rose water or apple cider vinegar. Also, moisturize your skin on a daily basis. Apply moisturizer whenever your skin craves for it.

Use honey or yogurt for your face. Honey has healing properties so it makes your skin less dry and yogurt makes your skin soft and keeps it moisturized.

Dry body:

Our entire body tends to get dry in winter season. So try to avoid very hot water when you shower. Go for lukewarm or not burning hot at least. After getting a shower, apply baby oil or coconut oil on your body. Baby oil works really well as it is lightweight and non-sticky. Keep on applying moisturizer or body lotion as per need.

Also, make sure to eat healthy and drink at least 10 glasses of water even in winters. It is very important to keep yourself hydrated to keep that dryness at bay.

So I really hope you enjoy this article. I use these tips on a daily basis and have worked for me. I hope it turns out to be helpful for you too. J

Stop hair fall in these 7 EASY ways!!

Hair fall is a common problem in many of us. We all have that time when we feel like we are shedding more hair than usual. And trust me hair fall can be really heart-breaking- as it is one of our precious assets. So what can you do to prevent or stop hair fall? Read till the end to find out.

Comb your hair when it is dry: Your hair is in the weakest form when it is wet. And combing wet hair definitely invites more hair to be on the floor. So never comb or brush your hair when it is wet. If you have to, then apply a serum or leave-in conditioner and detangle it with your fingers. Comb your hair starting from the ends. If you start combing your hair from the roots, then chances are the tangles in your hair will pile up  in your length and when you go to the length you cannot detangle your hair. So you end up breaking the hair.

Get rid of dandruff: The major cause of hair fall can also be dandruff. Dandruff makes your hair weak and when your hair is weak, it is more than likely to fall. So make sure to remove dandruff with an anti-dandruff shampoo or shampoo/oil mixed with lemon.

Use comb over hair brush: Using wide-tooth comb can help prevent hair fall than hair brushes. Hair brushes sometimes tend to pull off your hair.

Hot oil massage: Sometimes a major reason of your hair fall can be lack of nutrition in your hair. So make sure to give your hair a hot oil treatment once in a week. You can use coconut oil, almond oil, mustard oil or any other oil of your choice.

Do not stress: Stress can be a great contributor to hair fall. When we are stressed, we tend to shed even more hair than normal. So try to remain stress free at least for your hair.

Eat properly: You might be losing your precious strands because of lack of nutrition in your body. Make sure to eat fruits, protein, nuts (walnuts, almond) and drink enough water. You will start seeing a huge difference.

Sleep well: Sleep can contribute a lot in the well-being of your hair. Sleep deprivation can also lead to hair fall. So make sure to sleep for at least 6-7 hours. BONUS- sleeping for 6 to 7 hours can also result in a glowing skin.

So if you find yourself shedding a lot of hair, then do follow these tips. They will definitely help you.


 Related: 15 ways to grow hair long and fast

Things to do when you have nothing to do!!!

Have you come across the time when you literally do not have anything to do? Well it happens to me at least and a lot of times. Earlier, I would just sit down and literally just think (but would not do anything) but later on, I realized how I was wasting my time and killing my potential. So I’ve come up with few things that you can do when you get bored and have nothing to do.

Write it down:

Yes! Whatever your accomplishments are, you can always keep track of those. This helps you to feel motivated when you are feeling low and will make you proud of yourself.

Learn a new skill:

Learning a new skill always comes handy. You can either learn dancing, practice singing, painting (if you love doing so) or you can learn a new language like Spanish, French, etc. If you are not interested in learning any of these languages then stick to English as it is an international language, it can help you a lot in future.

Create something new:

In today’s world most of us have internet access wherever we stay. If you find yourself wasting your time scrolling the news feed on Facebook, then you probably should follow this point. There are tons of ideas on YouTube about how you can create things out of waste or paper crafts. You can always opt for room decors. What else could be better than watching your room get a transformation or a makeover?

Read something good:

I’m not just talking about romantic novels but a good idea is to read articles or any tutorials of things that you always wanted to learn about.

Talk to yourself:

Yes, you heard me right! No one can give you the best piece of advice other than yourself. If you are searching for some random answers about life, ask for the answer to yourself. If you are stuck with something or is bothering you, counsel yourself. Trust me, this really helps and this is NOT AT ALL weird. This is NORMAL.

Go out:

I’m not talking about gathering your friends and make a plan for a party. I am just saying that you should go out in a peaceful environment and accompany yourself. How long have you been detached with the nature and with yourself?

These are a few things that you can do to make your time useful and be more productive. I hope you enjoy. :) 

Replace expensive skin care products with kitchen ingredients!

Skin care products can really make a hole in your pocket. And especially when you suffer with any skin problems, it becomes difficult to choose what products to trust and what not to. Well I have some solutions for you so that you can replace high-end skin care products with kitchen ingredients that are easily available in your pantry and that wouldn’t cost a fortune.

Cleansing with honey

Honey is very good for your skin for its moisturizing properties. Because of its anti-bacterial properties it also repairs and heals your skin while cleansing all the impurities.

Scrubbing with gram flour/sugar

Scrubbing once in a while is good for the skin. It helps to remove all the dead skin cells that stay on your face as build-ups. You can use the mixture of gram flour and milk to scrub your face or you can also use the mixture of sugar and lemon juice.

Toning with rose water/apple cider vinegar

Toning can remove excessive dirt on your face making it soft and smooth. You can use regular rose water as a toner. Another natural toner could be apple cider vinegar. Mix apple cider vinegar and water with the proportion of 1:4 respectively. Use a cotton pad to apply or transfer the mixture into a spray bottle and spray all over your face.

Face mask

There are lot of options for face masks such as:

Neem face mask : Mix neem powder and rose water to form a paste. Apply it all over your face and wash your face after 15 minutes.

Multani mitti(fuller’s earth) : Make a paste of multani mitti and rose water and apply on your face. Wash it after 10-15 minutes. Multani mitti is useful to remove excessive oil on your face.

Yoghurt and turmeric: Yoghurt is really good for the skin because of its moisturizing properties. You can also add a pinch of turmeric in it. Apply it on your face and wash it after 10 minutes.

Note*  In case you might be allergic/sensitive to some of the products, do a patch test before applying to all over the face.

Moisturizing with honey/yoghurt : Again, honey is useful for moisturizing your face. You can either combine honey and yoghurt to moisturize your face or use them separately.

I really hope these tips help you. Comment down if you try any of these. J

                   Related: 9 things to never do to your skin

When expectations do not meet reality!!!

What if you are looking ‘perfectly alright’ from outside but something inside you is killing your capabilities, your trust on people or your belief on yourself. In today’s world it might be quiet difficult to find someone who will never deceive you, will always be there to help you and will always live up to your expectations. But let’s face it! This is never going to happen. By expecting these things form OTHERS, you are eventually betraying yourself. So why not convert the word ‘others’ into ‘yourself’. People nowadays are so occupied with so many things in their lives, that they do not even have time to feel sorry for others...

So what you can do is be your own well-wisher, be your own mentor and your own critic. Because if you don't encourage yourself then who will? If you do not teach yourself, look for your own mistakes, who will do that for you? The truth is, no one can make you feel good or bad about anything unless you decide to do so. Expecting others to encourage us, to make us feel good, is like waiting for good results without attending the exam. So you should not let anyone get into your path. So by not expecting anything from others and working your way towards your goal yourself is a big part of self-motivation. That way you are not shattering your inner self when you don’t see others reaching your expectations.

So do yourself a favor and try not to expect anything from anyone. That way you will go way ahead! Best wishes! J

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Things pageantry taught me!!

From the title itself you might have known that I was a contestant of a pageant.  Well, I was a finalist in national pageant of Nepal ‘Miss Nepal 2016’. I had never faced the camera before and did not know about most of the things. But after the pageant, a lot of things have changed. 

So here are some of the things that I learned after participating in a pageant.

Timing is everything: I cannot even begin to explain how important time is in pageantry. Of course it is important in every aspects of life but is more important when it comes to being ready ‘perfectly’ within a short span of time.

Multitasking: When you are in a pageant, you have to have the quality of multitasking. You are attending the training session for the entire day and in such a big pageant, you do not get a day off but you are expected to be looking good and by that, I mean more put together. So you have to think a lot of things at once. You have to manage your sessions, your wardrobe, your personality and your overall self ALL AT ONCE.

Pretty girls actually do not have attitude: When I was in the audition, a beautiful, tall girl came inside. She was very pretty and of course we were competing so I was expecting her to be arrogant enough for her beauty. But……she was so sweet that she greeted everyone and started talking to the girls who she did not even know. The reason why she won – beautiful inside out!

Hustle is your day to day activity: A pageant is such a platform where you get to enroll in so many activities. You have to do a lot of things at once that you had never thought you could. So you find yourself rushing for everything. But that being said, all the hustle pay you off at the end. You become a multitasker and a calmer person.

Etiquette : Now I am not saying I did not have manners before but after Miss Nepal, I knew how to walk properly, how to sit, dress, talk and eat properly. Thanks to our trainer and the entire team.

Confidence: I was a very under-confident person but after Miss Nepal, I started building up confidence in me. Now I do not shy away with opportunities as I used to do before.

Self-belief: Being able to be selected as one of the contestant is an achievement in itself. To be honest I was having a doubt on myself about the selection although I had met all the criteria. It happens. And when I got a call to know that I was an official contestant I was actually in top of the world!!

Communication skills: Communicating with renowned people and with the sponsors is not the same as communicating with our friends. There is some etiquette for that. And I have improved my communication skills way better.

Maintain yourself: After coming out of a pageant, you are not the same person you used to be before entering it. You become a better version of yourself both physically and mentally. You learn to present yourself well in public. After all, it’s a BEAUTY pageant.

There’s more than just beauty: Many people have a misconception that beauty pageants solely focus on the outer beauty of a person. But it is more than that. The contestants are taught about various things like personality development, communication skills, and etiquette and so on. In short, we work to be a better person.

                                                                                                             

So these are the things that I learned from being a contestant of Miss Nepal. I am always very grateful to the Miss Nepal organization for having me as one of their family members and for all the opportunities that I got by connecting myself with the pageant. The experience was PRICELESS!!!!! 

9 things you should never do to your skin

Your skin is the most delicate part of your appearance. Since it is the thing that covers and protect your entire body, here are few things that you should never do to your skin.





1. Scratch your face : Scratching your face can leave you with some serious skin problems. Your skin become dry and if you have long nails, then you can even leave a mark on your face. And I'm sure you don't want that!

2. Use hot water : No matter how cold it is NEVER wash your face with hot water. It is better to wash it with either lukewarm water or cold water. Hot water makes your skin dry.

3. Touch your face : DO NOT keep touching your face every now and then. Your hands are the most exposed part of your body and you have to do every work with your hands. You might not always be alert in terms of washing your hands. So you end up transferring all those germs to your skin through your hands which results in breakouts.

4. Overdo scrubbing : It is similar to scratching your face. Scrubbing once in a week is fine but don't go overboard with your scrubbing schedule. It might irritate your skin.

5. Miss out on moisturizer : It is as important as anything related to skin care. No matter what type of your skin is always make sure to use moisturizer. Go for the one that suits your skin type.

6. Over-wash your face : Do not wash your face more than twice a day. If you have an oily skin, then you can extend otherwise twice a day is enough. Over-washing can dry your skin.

7. Neglect dry skin : If you have dry skin then always take out time to moisturize. Dry skin can result in early signs of ageing and you might not want wrinkles on your face.

8. Leave makeup overnight : This is a very crucial step in skin care. If you do not cleanse the makeup before going to the bed, you might have buildup on your skin making it prone to acne and breakouts.

9. Try to tease pimple : Pimple is an inevitable thing. No matter how hard you try it will come if it has to. And when it does,do not show your frustration by squeezing it. It will leave a mark on your face and you will regret it later.


I really hope this article was helpful and never do these things to your skin. :)

How to know if he’s the right guy?

Having the right person in your life matters a lot. Especially, when that person is going to stay with you for your entire life. So how do you know if the guy you are interested in or have been talking to since a long is worth asking for? I’m sure this article will help you.

So here are the things that a guy who loves you will surely do:

 He respects you: If he respects you or any other girl then do not let him go. He is the one who will never insult you or humiliate you like any other guy who disrespects women would.

His smile: His smile can say a lot about you. If you really like him you will definitely know either his smile was for 'just a friend' or SOMEONE SPECIAL . 

Likes you back: Well, this is the very first step. As a girl, I think we are blessed with a strong sense of intuition. So get advantage of that and talk to him more often to know either he likes you back or not.

He is career-oriented: Any guy who is career-oriented or is ambitious, will not have time for any other unnecessary things. He is serious in most of the things so it will be a good decision if you date a guy who is more serious in life.

You enjoy his company: There are always some differences between a best friend (of opposite sex) and a special friend (you know who it is). You happen to enjoy that person’s presence around you.

You trust him: Being a girl myself, I would suggest not to trust people(guy) too much but when it is about ‘him’, you genuinely feel like trusting him.

 He trusts you back: When he is the one for you, he also starts trusting you and in order to spend your entire life with someone, you definitely need to build trust between each other.

You become jealous when he talks to some other girl: Yes. You know that feeling when all of a sudden you want to cry, shout, sulk all at the same time. That’s because you don’t want him to be with any other person (girl).

He is protective: Not for the sake of ‘male attributes’ but he is genuinely concerned about you and your safety.

 He sees future with you: If you guys are already dating and if he talks about his future where you are a major part, then….MARRY HIM!

He cries for you: Normally guys do not like to show their emotions especially where tears are included. But if he cries just with the thought of losing you then he is PROBABLY THE ONE.

You are really important for him: It is clear that if a guy values you and your feelings then he is probably the one. He will cancel any of his plans just to see you once.

He will never force you: If a guy really loves you, then he will never force you to be intimate with him. He will also not force you to do anything against your will.

These are a few things which can help you to know if you have found your perfect match. I hope you get the best guy you deserve. =)